My littlest wildflower blossoming through Cancer Season

They say you birth your teachers…Well today I celebrate the birth of my biggest life teacher, Valentina Lavender.

Val’s sun sign, the sign that is her source of life, is in Cancer. She shared this sun sign with her beloved father Marc, who passed way three years ago during Cancer season on June 28th.

Today, June 25th, 2025 is a new moon in Cancer…. Now if that isn’t majestic enough, my north node, or my soul’s purpose in this lifetime is in Cancer. The cosmic cherry on top is the Jupiter Cazimi to amply this all and take it up a notch. For those of you who know Valentina Lavender, nothing she does is every ordinary and she has been breaking the mold of life since the day she was born 7 years ago. She truly is my little wildflower that exudes a calming essence just by being in her presence. Like lavender.

Marc’s passing three years ago during Cancer season created a metaphysical fissure or crack if you will in Valentina’s heart. As a surgeon and mother, I naturally want to go in and immediately fix this wound. I cannot simply stand back and allow a piece of my heart to hemorrhage. No parent can simply stand back and allow their child to feel pain, whether it is emotional or physical…or can we?

The most profound lessons Valentina has taught me have been in patience, the value of space and how to sit with and process pain.

For most of my life, I never took the time or the space to feel my feelings. Instead, my Ego jumped in and buried my emotions in a box deep inside my heart. Now I had an extremely strong Ego and she wanted to really make sure I never felt any of my emotions; therefore, burial wasn’t enough. So, my Ego went ahead and constructed a cement wall around my heart creating an impenetrable fortress. Every time an emotion would come up, Ego would swoop in to prevent me from feeling pain and bury the feeling with the others. Talk about heavy emotional baggage…. When Marc died, the cement shell around my heart shattered and all those stored emotions came pouring out. My soul was set on fire, and I felt like a helpless bystander watching it all burn. I had no idea how to feel let alone process a tragedy of this magnitude.

Valentina showed me the way. She is patient and knows how to feel in every moment. She never buries her feelings, rather she takes her time and space and processes her pain. My little 7-year-old has found a way to alchemize this metaphysical wound from the great loss of her father during her season of life and revitalization (in Cancer) into a portal to create magic. She is emotionally mature and able to process anything that life throws her way. For a little extra flare, she does this with the elegance, the grace and the serenity of a lavender wildflower.

Happy birthday my sweet girl. Even though we are apart today, the essence of your soul is so strong I can feel your love through the ether.

xoxo,

Your Mama (Farmette)